Thursday, 25 October 2012

How to: Have a kick-ass wedding

Your wedding day is pretty much one of the biggest days of your life. A day that takes immense planning, time, tears and often a few tantrums. It has so many intricate details that there are bound to be some things that don't necessarily go the way you planned. Here's a few tips that you might have overlooked:

1) Plan for the weather. If you’re wanting the ceremony to be outside under the floral gazebo, remember that the weather can be mercurial. If it’s too hot, people will burn and sweat and there is nothing sexy about a woman with streaky foundation and sweat beads above her top lip. Provide parasols and fans for comfort. Likewise, have a back-up for the potential of rain. Minced hair is a tragedy.
2) Keep the formalities fun. Photos are an important part of the wedding day as you want to document each second but don’t let that become the main focus. The day itself is central and ‘being in the moment’ is vital. Don’t destroy everyone’s souls by taking hours to capture photos and leaving your guests to wonder aimlessly about.
3) Don’t over entertain. Packing in an itinerary of fireworks, marimba bands, petting zoos or acrobatics can turn your wedding into a spectacle rather than a celebration of you as a couple. Entertaining everyone present and featuring something special is great but don’t make it into a circus.
4) Eat, drink and be merry. People are happy when they can eat well which doesn’t mean having an extensive array of food options nor forking out thousands on drinks. Don't make people or yourself wait too long for food. Fainting and headaches come to those who don't eat or drink.
5) Can you pee? My mum came to look at a lot of venues with me and we always looked for two things, air-con as February in Cape Town is hot and secondly, were the toilets nice enough and big enough for me to get in, hike my dress up and wee? You can forget about the small things but trust me, having to pee in a small-ass cubicle whilst wearing a meringue is not pleasant.
6) Don't be bullied. Families have a way of being your best friend and your worst enemies and nothing shows this more than a wedding. If you don't want children at your wedding but your cousin is sulking because that means her 3 year old demon can't attend, don't give in. Don't allow yourself to be emotionally blackmailed because you want a small wedding and your Grandma wants her ancient friends to be present or your father-in-law wants to bring his trashy new girlfriend. Put your foot down. If they don't like it, then they aren't worth it.
7) Make it personal. Inject your personality and that of you're partners into the day. Don't be tempted to copy another wedding and don't be afraid to do something truly 'out-there'. 
8) Give yourself a day to relax after the wedding before you head off to your honeymoon. I guarantee that once the wedding is over, your emotions will be going haywire and you'll need some time to just calm down and gather your thoughts.

In the end, the day is all about you and your partner and celebrating the start of your future together as husband and wife.

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